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Mark · 08-31-2009, 01:33 PM

(08-30-2009 09:51 AM)heb13-13 Wrote: Mark,

I am praying for you, too. I feel bad for you and your family. Two cannot lead a family if they are not in agreement and this is one of those heart-wrenching situations that happens. Please don't let a root of bitterness take hold of you. Things will only get worse.

Your wife looks to the Pastor as her Authority. She is not looking at the truth of the scriptures.

I think you and she should go to the Pastor and talk to him about this. Expose this and make your views known. Surely, he would agree that you should be in charge of the family's finances. Tell him what the present situation is doing to your relationship with your wife and your kids. Surely, the health of your relationship with your wife will be more important than money to him. You need to know where he stands, unless you already do. But if your marriage is MORE important than money to the Pastor, then your wife needs to hear this from the Pastor's own lips. And then she needs to stop giving away your money. That's just a form of confiscation.

I wish itwould be that easy. It's not a single pastor that believes that, it's the entire organization. That is part of their doctrine. It would be like trying to convince them that speaking in tongues is not the sign that you have received the Holy Ghost. They are very firm in their beliefs and therefore would do nothing if I were to approach him on this issues.